How to Prepare for Your First Play Party (Without Freaking Out)

A friendly guide for curious first-timers

So you’ve registered for your first play party at The 5710 (good call), and now your brain won’t shut up:What should I wear?Am I supposed to bring anything?What if I feel awkward or nervous?What if I want to leave halfway through and eat tacos instead?

Take a deep breath. We’ve got you.

Here’s your no-judgment, first-timer-friendly guide to stepping into a play space confidently, while honoring your own pace, style, and boundaries.

1. Wear What Makes You Feel Sexy—Or Safe

There’s no dress code here (unless the event states otherwise), but there is a vibe: expression, play, and comfort.

• First-timer unsure? Start with form-fitting underwear, athletic shorts, or a harness. That’s a classic entry-level look.

• Feeling bold? Lingerie, leather, or nothing at all. Seriously—your comfort, your body, your rules.

• Not ready to undress? That’s fine too. Some folks keep it casual until they’re ready to explore more.

Pro tip: Wear easy-off shoes or slides. You’ll thank us later.

2. Pack a Small Bag with These Essentials

We provide towels, safer sex supplies, water, and a place to stash your things—but it helps to bring your own mini go-bag. Here’s what many seasoned guests include:

• Personal lube (especially if you have a preferred brand)

• Condoms or barriers of your choice

• A change of clothes for after

• A water bottle or your favorite hydration

• A toy or gear if you want to use something familiar

• Mints (because kissing is better when fresh)

3. Set Boundaries Before You Enter the Room

You don’t need to know everything you want, but you do need to know what’s off-limits. Before you walk in, ask yourself:

• Am I open to being touched? By whom?

• What are my hard NOs?

• Am I here to observe, connect, play, or a mix?

Clear boundaries = empowered experiences. And no one here will pressure you to do more than you want.

4. Feeling Nervous Is Totally Normal

You might feel butterflies—or full-on performance anxiety. That’s okay. Everyone was new once. You’re not alone, and there’s no script to follow. Here’s what helps:

• Arrive early. Get the lay of the land before things heat up.

• Introduce yourself. You don’t need a monologue—just “Hey, I’m new” is enough.

• Ask questions. Our hosts and regulars are warm, approachable, and totally used to nervous newbies.

• Step outside if you need to. There’s zero shame in taking a break.

5. Consent is Everything (And It Goes Both Ways)

At The 5710, we live and breathe consent. That means:

• You can say no at any time. Even mid-conversation or mid-touch.

• You can change your mind. What felt good yesterday might not today.

• You should always ask before touching. Even if someone’s naked or already playing.

Think of consent as sexy social etiquette—like foreplay for the brain.

6. You Don’t Have to Do Anything. Really.

People sometimes worry they’ll be “expected” to participate. Nope.

You can:

• Watch and learn

• Flirt and chat

• Play a little, or a lot

• Sit in a corner and soak in the vibe

It’s your night, your body, and your experience.

7. Leave When You’re Ready—Or Stay All Night

You’re welcome to come and go anytime during posted hours. Whether you stay 20 minutes or 4 hours, it’s all good.

Sometimes the first visit is just to see what it’s like. That’s a win in itself.

Final Thought: Your First Time Only Happens Once

Let yourself be new. Let yourself be curious. Let yourself have fun. We created The 5710 as a space for open-minded, respectful play—and we’re honored to be your first.

When you’re ready, we’re here. And when you’re nervous, we’ve got snacks.

🖤 Want more newbie-friendly tips or have a question before your first visit? Drop us a message or ask at the door—no shame, no judgment.

👉 https://www.5710cleveland.com/event-list